How to get a guy to wait for sex?

These are personal decisions, neither right nor wrong, just the way you feel. Your choice. For all of us there is only one "first time". But most people will tell you that having a good sex life is important in a marriage relationship. And there is no way to know if it will work well or not without doing it. Look at the questions in "Marriage and Divorce" and note the number of them that deal with sexual relations between married people. There are many problems, some between people who were virgins when they got married and some between people who had a lot of practice before marriage...and some between people who have lived together a long time and never married. But they all have problems. Keep that in mind as you make your decisions. To most guys (not all, just most) the virginity of their bride/girlfriend is not important. Would it really mean that much to you if your husband was not a virgin?